Wednesday, October 24, 2018

「裝傻」

不該說的話別說,不該管的事別管,不該惹的人別惹,不該生的氣別生;學會裝聾作啞,學會適當裝傻,是一種能力,更是一種境界!眼,裝瞎才不會流淚;嘴,裝啞才不會惹禍;耳,裝聾才不會傷心;人,裝傻才會活得輕鬆,有時候知道的多了,未必是件好事。發現了真相,疼的是心;戳穿了謊言,冷的是情;以為牢不可破的關係,其實也不堪一擊;裝糊塗,也是一種智慧!

要想在這個現實社會站穩腳跟,有時候就要學會裝聾作啞。不該說的話別說,不該管的事別管,不該惹的人別惹,不該生的氣別生。眼,只有裝瞎才不流淚,嘴,只有裝啞才不惹禍,人,只有裝傻才會輕鬆。

裝傻,不是真傻,而是糊裡糊塗,不計較。裝傻,不是毛病,而是心胸寬廣,不記仇。現實的社會,複雜的人心,理,不要爭得太明白,事,不要弄得太清楚。理,爭多了傷感情,事,弄明白心會痛。

裝傻,不是沒有底線讓步,不是沒有原則寬容,而是顧全大局,心裡有數,不理是非,不增仇恨,不添煩惱,不生悶氣。裝傻,看似糊塗,實際精明,話不說得太滿,事不做得太絕,與人方便,給自己方便,給人讓步,留自己後路。

人,太精明未必是好事,越算計,越疲憊,越精明,越不寧。傻人有傻福,精人添憂愁,凡事自己心裡明白就好,何必說出來,惹人煩,何必算清楚,惹仇怨。

走過的路,才知道有短有長;經過的事,才知道有喜有傷;品過的人,才知道有真有假。看懂一件事,你就長大了。看清一件事,你就開竅了。看破一件事,你就理性了。看透一件事,你就成熟了。看穿一件事,你就到頭了。看淡一件事,你就放下了。裝傻一點點,你就簡單了,就快樂了。

人生的最好境界:裝傻!大事化小,小事化了;事大事小,能過去就好!誰真誰假,誰奸誰傻;眼裡看清,心裡清楚就好!是也罷,非也罷,是是非非爭個啥!聚也好,散也好,隨心隨緣最主要!

---文:看头条 ---


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Wednesday, September 19, 2018

結婚後,女人養成這「四種習慣」,會越活越好看!

女人無論多忙,也請記住要逼自己養成這四個好習慣:
1)學會和自己獨處,好好愛自己,讓自己擁有更多的定力;
2)堅持看書和學習,女人才可以永葆成長的魅力;
3)堅持培育自己運動習慣,讓自己身體處於最好一種狀態;
4)堅持不要在背後議論別人,而是幫助他人,為自己存續福報。
一旦我們習慣養成,女人你將越活越漂亮,也將贏得更多的人尊重。

Tuesday, August 28, 2018

Important Life Lesson

Steve Jobs' last words
He died a billionaire at 56yrs of Pancreatic Cancer and here are his last words on the sick bed:
"I reached the pinnacle of success in the business world. In others’ eyes my life is an epitome of success.
However, aside from work, I have little joy. In the end, wealth is only a fact of life that I am accustomed to.
At this moment, lying on the sick bed and recalling my whole life, I realize that all the recognition and
wealth that I took so much pride in, have paled and become meaningless in the face of impending death.
You can employ someone to drive the car for you, make money for you but you cannot have someone to bear the sickness for you.
Material things lost can be found. But there is one thing that can never be found when it is lost – "Life".
When a person goes into the operating room, he will realize that there is one book that he has yet to finish reading – "Book of Healthy Life".
Whichever stage in life we are at right now, with time, we will face the day when the curtain comes down.
Treasure Love for your family, love for your spouse, love for your friends...
Treat yourself well. Cherish others.
As we grow older, and hence wiser, we slowly realize that wearing a $300 or $30 watch - they both tell the same time...
Whether we carry a $300 or $30 wallet/handbag - the amount of money inside is the same;
Whether we drive a $150,000 car or a $30,000 car, the road and distance is the same, and we get to the same destination.
Whether we drink a bottle of $300 or $10 wine - the hangover is the same;
Whether the house we live in is 300 or 3000 sq ft - loneliness is the same.
You will realize, your true inner happiness does not come from the material things of this world.
Whether you fly first or economy class, if the plane goes down - you go down with it...
Therefore.. I hope you realize, when you have mates, buddies and old friends, brothers and sisters, who you chat with, laugh with, talk with, have sing songs with, talk about north-south-east-west or heaven and earth, .... That is true happiness!!
Five Undeniable Facts of Life :
1. Don't educate your children to be rich. Educate them to be Happy. So when they grow up they will know the value of things not the price.
2. Best awarded words in London ... "Eat your food as your medicines. Otherwise you have to eat medicines as your food."
3. The One who loves you will never leave you for another because even if there are 100 reasons to give up he or she will find one reason to hold on.
4. There is a big difference between a human being and being human.
Only a few really understand it.
5. You are loved when you are born. You will be loved when you die. In between, You have to manage!
NOTE: If you just want to Walk Fast, Walk Alone! But if you want to Walk Far, Walk Together!
Six Best Doctors in the World
1. Sunlight
2. Rest
3. Exercise
4. Diet
5. Self Confidence and
6. Friends
Maintain them in all stages of Life and enjoy a healthy life.
God loves you!

Thursday, July 26, 2018

日久见人心

真正的魅力,
不是你给对方留下了
美好的第一印象,
而是相识多年后,
依然喜欢和你在一起 。
真正的魅力,
也不是你瞬间吸引了
对方的目光,
而是彼此多年熟悉后,
依然欣赏你的风度 。
真正的魅力,
更不是初见面时
那种相见恨晚的感觉,
而是经过历尽沧桑后,
仍能由衷地对你说
“能认识你真好!”。
---文:慧海大和尚---

Sunday, June 17, 2018

继续向前吧!


世上没有白费的努力,
世上没有碰巧的成功。

好多事情
外表看来好似是
“无心插柳”之举,
其实,
其背后深处却充滿着
“水到渠成”之因。


人生没有白走的路,
人生没有白吃的苦。

跨出去的每一步,
都是未来的基石与铺垫,
每一步的努力都算数。
继续向前吧!


~ 文/慧海教授和尚 ~

Tuesday, June 5, 2018

Motivational Quote of the Day



"Your life - the way it looks today is a result of your choices... What
will you do today for your tomorrows?"



-Robert G. Allen

Thursday, May 24, 2018

獨處,是一種能力,也是一種修養!

人生這條路那麼長,總有一段,需要自己一個人走,你必須逼著自己獨立、變勇敢,不能任由自己逃避、膽怯,畢竟再親近的家人、再好的朋友,也都有不在你身邊的時候,你總不能總是等到她們在時才去面對和應付,因此要學會獨處。學會獨處,是做人的智慧善於交際,固然是一種能力,也是一種修養。

漸漸地,我們開始變老。當我們到了一定的年齡,特別是人到中年的時候,我們就會發現,很多時候,我們變得不想多說,很多事情,我們變得不再刻意為之。有人說,這是佛系中年的表現,其實,不然。我們學會了沉默,是覺得有些話,說了,沒有意義,有些事情,做了,反而得不償失。所以,更多的時候,我們會選擇獨處,學會在獨處中思考自己。其實,學會獨處,也是一種修養。

工作中,我們要學會獨處。工作中,我們和人溝通交往產生紛爭的時候,公說公有理婆說婆有理的事情,常常發生,所以,和人產生紛爭的時候,學會閉嘴,非常重要。只是,很多人都難以做到,包括你,包括我,但是,在很多時候,我們卻可以利用獨處,來減少這些紛爭。比如,工作的時候,我們安安靜靜地做好自己的本質工作,我們好好地思考自己工作的來龍去脈。在上班時間,在獨處的時間裡,好好地處理好自己的工作,其實,是一種修養,更是一種負責的工作態度。

生活中,我們也需要學會獨處。一個人在社會上生活,難免會碰到各色人等,難免遇到林林總總的煩心事,這些人,這些事,其實,我們都難以回避,也不必去回避,畢竟,我們無法看破紅塵,也沒有走出紅塵。所以,當我們遇到煩心事的時候,除了找知心好友聊一聊,透透氣之外。更多的時候,我們要學會獨處,學會在獨處中思考自己的人生,以及自己人生的方向。

和親人相處,我們也要學會獨處。親人們在一起,十分親熱,但是,隨著相處時間的長久,彼此間遇到的事情多了,就可能產生一些意想不到的矛盾。我們經常看到的,有些親兄弟反目成仇的現象,就很能形象地說明了這一點。有時候,即使是家庭成員,天天呆在一起,遇到婆婆媽媽的嘮叨,和過分關心的說三道四,也可能產生膩煩的心理。所以,親人在一起,適當地給彼此一點空間,一個獨處的時間,也很有必要。 在獨處的時光裡,大家做著各自喜歡的事情,相安無事,有時候,家庭關係會更加融洽,更加地祥和。

一個人,特別是人到中年的時候,要懂得安靜下來了,要懂得修養生息的了。而安靜下來,去修養生息的最好辦法,就是獨處。在獨處中,我們學會了思考,我們學會了去做自己想做的事情;在獨處中,我們懂得了人生的很多道理,在面對生活的種種是是非非的時候,也更能進行明智的處理的了。也許,這就是獨處的好處,也是一個人有修養體現吧。

By 弦幕